Veronica Asks: Why Can't We All Get Along?

I've wondered that my whole life. Even as a very little girl, when I would see people having arguments I wondered "Why can't we just get along?" Why do we have to fight to be right at the expense of relationships? As I got older and would have disagreements with others, often I would say "let's agree to disagree." I was shocked at how many times people could not - or would not - give up the argument, insisting that everyone come to their point of view. Even more shocking to me, sometimes that person who wouldn't give up was me!

I think for most people - especially now that the entire of mass consciousness is moving up in vibration - it feels really bad to be engaged in arguments with others. Really really bad. So bad that many of us simply cannot "go there" anymore. I know I still get sucked in occassionally, fall to old patterns of habit and start arguing for my point of view. But it doesn't take very long these days for me to realize I've gone to a place I don't care to be, then choose differently. I hope you-all are beginning to do the same.

Here's what Veronica through April and Allen Crawford at Inner Whispers had to say about this topic:

Why Can't We All Get Along?

In the linear, energy ebbs and flows between all participants. When the energy is a good match, the consistency of the exchange creates harmony. As one might suspect, disconnecting energy often indicates a poor match.

Relationships with others while physical are an important part of soul's development. Some are obviously more dear to you than others. Those less important, often allow you to walk away from a relationship that just doesn't work.

How then does one decide what to do when the relationship is very important to the structure of your reality?

First, it is important to understand that a poor energy match has probability of improvement. It may never be a perfectly harmonious one, but there can be a reconstruction if both parties are interested. The emphasis being placed on "both parties".

Working to achieve balance in an unbalanced energy requires great focus from all. A decision to be honest, with clarity of intentions, is important. There may be sticking points that will never resolve, but the two parties may be be able to come to energetic agreement. Enough to maintain the relationship in a positive fashion is the desire here.

Secondly, learn to participate. Be active within.the relationship. Waiting for others to come toward you in a conciliatory manner may keep you waiting a long time. Decide to set your ego aside and reach out to an energy who may not be as clear as you are in the moment. In the end, it doesn't matter who wins the argument. There are no winners when the relationship is abandoned.

Third: Try thinking with your heart. Again, both parties need to be on th same page here. Often a singular attempt may be met with negativity if both parties are not engaged.

We realize we will be asked why we have not addressed the world with all its people. Certainly there is a remedy to cure the world of its troubles.

Yes, there is a remedy.

It is you.

If all begin with themselves, the energy will spread to others. A peaceful virus that the world needs begins with you.

Why not?


Through April and Allen Crawford at Inner Whispers
The point they make about being in harmony is a good one. Thing is, we don't have to wait to find other people who are already in harmony with us to get along, nor do we need to avoid those who are not. Though as a highly sensitive empath, that's how I've habitually lived my life. Avoiding has been a way to protect myself. Perhaps you've done the same, or know of others who are like that. There is another way, and you don't have to be a sensitive empath to take advantage of it.

It's all quite simple. Recognize that no matter how disharmonious an interaction might be, there are levels we can meet at - energetically - that are harmonious. These might not be the levels that we vibrate at typically, but if we set our intent to harmonize with another at the highest possible level, it's amazing how smooth things can get. Instead of us, as higher vibrating individuals, getting pulled down to a lower level, we bring the other up, meeting together at the highest level we can together achieve.

This is your intent, and you can do it without the other(s) being aware that you are doing so. The part that takes some discipline and effort is interrupting a habitual pattern of dropping your vibration to a level close to the one you're disagreeing/fighting with. You may not be aware that you are dropping your vibration, but as Abraham likes to say, the fact that you don't feel good is a pretty good indication that you've stepped out of your joy.

As with all things, you can pre-pave your way to harmony. If you've got a situation coming up that generally "pushes your buttons", intend to have the interaction be at the highest possible level for all concerned. If this is someone close to you, practice harmonizing before you are actually interacting with them. That will make it easier when you actually are in their presence.

If this is going to be a business transaction, a meeting, or something similar, don't attach names or faces to the interaction, simply intend to harmonize at the highest possible level. The reason not to attach names or faces is that you might not be interacting with who you think you are going to be interacting with. For example, if you're going to see the IRS about an audit, and this has you all irritable and fidgety, imagine the interaction going smoothly, quickly, and in total agreement. Intend to harmonize at the highest possible level with whomever is in this interaction. That way, even if the person you expected to interact with is replaced by someone else, your harmonizing will be in place. In fact, your harmonizing might be what causes a different individual to show up for you!

You don't need to know how the harmonizing is achieved anymore than you need to know how your body moves you from place to place; you intend to walk and you do. Your intent to harmonize - along with your faith that it works - is all you need.

Try it! I think you'll find this simple tool startlingly effective. And as Jim Self likes to remind us, practice when it doesn't count.

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